Generational habits are hard to break we all have them. He wont get it right all the time none of us do but when he screws up if he goes and talks to your daughter one on one and apologizes then thats OK to. My Dad is great and well loved BUT he would tend to get yelled at while working and take it with a smile and then come home and yell at the family. We knew he did not mean it and he loved us but it still hurt. So I made a commitment to not do that with my kids. When someone crosses the line at work and takes it out on me at work I dish it right back. Probably not the best example but its something I decided to change in my family.
My husband is a great guy, but he came from a home life of tough love and I came from coddling. I want our girls to grow up with something in the middle. This is wonderful! Hi Heather. Thanks for the lovely comment, it brought a smile to my face today. This is one of my favorite things too.
I love catching my kids in action! I have a son with special needs and it is so easy to find fault and get frustrated and run out of patience but the difference in him when we focus on the positive things — even the smallest of things makes a huge difference.
Thanks for reminding us all about the value of praise and positive thoughts.
She shows how to buffer kids from disappointment, failure, and frustration by helping them to think more accurately about their problems — to right-size them. What are your concerns? If children with learning disabilities are eating right and getting enough sleep and exercise, they will be better able to focus, concentrate, and work hard. Is mind-mindedness the true foundation of attachment parenting? And he provides us with new insights into how to improve the lives of children growing up in poverty. So what role might factors such as divorce or parental discord play in the formation of attachment styles? Contact initiated by a parent is readily accepted by securely attached children and they greet the return of a parent with positive behavior.
Thanks Emma, being positive with ourselves is sometimes the hardest to redirect. I know I have to remind myself of this too!
This is exactly what I have been trying to work on in our home. I feel like we especially me have been swallowed up by negativity and yelling because of stress. I think stepping back and thinking about the impact on our kids is huge!
We are definitely going to be working on this at our house. Thanks for the great reminder! Hi Kristy, I know that stress can build up and make me impatient or irritable too. Sometimes I have to put up sticky notes to remind myself of little things, because its so hard to always be conscious of everything we say and do especially around our kids.
Thank you so much for your honesty and your writing!!!
Love it! Sending best wishes from Europe………. Just came across this today via Pinterest and it is everything I needed to hear today! Amazing how that happens. What a beautifully written message for parents. Also, I cannot get the positive home printable link to work. If you could send it to me I would greatly appreciate it! And so, I choose positive parenting too. Thank you for all the tips.
This is such a good post! My husband and I are constantly working on having a stable home for them. Thanks for sharing this! Oftentimes, an overreaction is simply a sign of immaturity — which they will outgrow eventually. We cover each of these points and more in my latest podcast episode, so listen when you can. Share This Facebook Twitter Pinterest.
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